You are probably going through something. That thing is probably really hard to deal with, right? Everyone is and that doesn’t make your struggles worse or better but remember that everyone is. That is not meant to invalidate your emotions, what you are going through is real and valid. Of course it matters how you feel but in all cases it still matters how you treat others. 

Just because you may be having problems at home does not mean you get to take out your anger on your friends. Even though it may be hard to see your home life change. Just because your friends tease you about being less experienced physically does not mean you get to pressure your boyfriend/girlfriend into those things because they made you feel insecure. I have been on the receiving end of that and I will be the first to say you have no right to justify it because it will make you “cool”. That hurts them a lot more than it hurts you and in some cases is illegal. Just because your mental health is not in the best place does not mean you get to use against someone. Of course mental health is real and deserves more awareness but using an illness you may not have (always go to a doctor before self diagnosing) to use against someone isn’t the right way to handle conflict. It is such a fragile topic it shouldn’t be used as an argument ever.

Believe me, I have had my fair share of hard knocks in life. I know some of those things are hard to deal with but it is not an excuse for your behavior. You should not feel the need to take out your insecurities and frustration on other people as an unhealthy coping mechanism. Of course I’m only talking about when you use your struggle as an excuse to treat someone badly or in a manipulative way. If you cannot handle certain things while going through something, take some time and work on you. You can take it slow and forgive those who have done you wrong, including yourself. If you are reading this article thinking it may apply to you it would be beneficial to learn more ways to cope with situations; try blowing bubbles, coloring, screaming music in the car, or look up more ideas. Sometimes your struggle is bigger than yourself and you’ll hurt yourself first and others second if you let it take over your life. This means seeking counseling, talking to a trusted loved one, or even medication specifically prescribed by a doctor. However, when it comes to just a simple daily passing emotion or day to day struggles, you have no excuse to treat someone else badly because of it. Take a break and think of how you might be affecting others, including yourself.