Five words: do not settle for less. Guys, let’s get this straight. As high schoolers, most of us are desperate for a relationship, but, that doesn’t mean we should just settle for anyone. No, I’m not talking about looks or hygiene. I’m talking about how we deserve to be treated.

I can’t even count how many times throughout high school I’ve heard about people being cheated on or treated poorly while in a relationship. That shouldn’t even be a problem. The fact that it’s normalized and desensitized in our society is ridiculous. Do not get into a relationship if you can’t be loyal to the one you supposedly “love.”

Cheating on someone not only messes with that person’s heart, but messes with their head as well. A year ago, I was treated with a large amount of disrespect and cheated on. Little did he know about the pain and heartbreak I went through that was caused by the mindset that when he cheated, it was my fault. Now, I realize that I can do better than that because better is what I deserve. It’ll take time to heal, but patience is key.

There will be times where vulnerability may take a toll. Lots of people tend to want to go back, no matter how horrible the relationship was before ending things. I’ve seen this so much with so many people. I’m even guilty of wanting to go back several times. I’d rather be third wheeling and alone than in an ugly relationship again. Going back to someone who hurt you is toxic. It never works out in the end. The best thing you can do for yourself is to forgive and forget, and just wait for someone who you know will treat you with nothing but respect and genuine love.

I am no expert, but I do know relationships require sacrifices, time and patience. Although relationships can be difficult, no matter what the circumstance, we all know how to be loyal and kind; some of us just need to actually do it.

If you have ever been cheated on or have been poorly treated in a relationship, know many other people are going through the same thing (unfortunately). You are never alone and you are strong enough to get through it. Watch out for red flags before getting into a relationship. Listen to your friends especially; they will be honest. Don’t sell yourself short. Aim for better.